Monday, August 17, 2026

Living a Beautiful Life



Somewhere along the way, many of us started believing we had to be good at everything.

  • The perfect employee.
  • The perfect parent.
  • The perfect leader.
  • The perfect friend.
  • The perfect cook.
  • The perfect gardener.

The perfect...

        Everything.

If I'm honest, I've spent seasons of my life trying to become someone who could do it all.

The older I get, the more I'm realizing something.

I don't have to be good at everything to live a beautiful life.

I can celebrate the people who are gifted where I'm not.

I can ask for help.

I can admire someone else's talent without questioning my own.

I can stop trying to become everything and start becoming the person God created me to be.

There's a strange kind of freedom in that.

Because when we stop measuring ourselves by everything we aren't...

We finally have room to appreciate everything we are.

This Week's Reminder

You don't have to be good at everything to live a beautiful life.

Happy Monday, friends.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt

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Thursday, August 13, 2026

The Sweetness of Waiting

I've been thinking about our conversation on Monday.

About the pear trees.

All week I've been helping graduate students put the finishing touches on their final projects.

There's a certain excitement that comes with watching people realize how much they've learned.

It's easy to focus on the finished project.

  • The presentation.
  • The grade.
  • The accomplishment.

But those moments only exist because of months of steady work.

Then I walked through the orchard again.

The pears are still hanging from the branches.

They're close.

But they're not ready.

And that's exactly how they're supposed to be.

No one gets frustrated with a pear for taking its time.

No one stands beneath the tree shouting, "Come on! Hurry up!"

We understand that fruit ripens according to nature's timeline.

So why are we so impatient with ourselves?

Why do we expect healing to happen overnight?

Confidence to appear instantly?

Dreams to unfold according to our schedule?

As a coach, I often meet people who feel discouraged because they believe they should be further along by now.

Maybe you've felt that way too.

But what if your life isn't behind?

What if you're simply still ripening?

Growth isn't always visible.

    Sometimes it's happening quietly beneath the surface.

        Sometimes it's happening while no one else notices.

            Sometimes the waiting is doing as much work as the growing.

Coffee Conversation

Before we finish our coffee together...

Can I leave you with one question?

What in your life are you trying to harvest before it's had time to ripen?

Sit with that.

Maybe the waiting isn't delaying your story.

Maybe it's preparing it.

This Week's Reminder

The sweetest fruit is rarely the first to ripen.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt


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Monday, August 10, 2026

Ripening Takes Time



This week is the final week of my graduate Project Management course at Jessup University.

My office has been filled with project plans, executive status reports, final presentations, and students putting the finishing touches on months of hard work.

It's one of my favorite weeks of the semester because I get to watch confidence replace uncertainty.

Between meetings and grading, I stepped outside for a walk through our orchard.

The pears are almost ready.

        Almost.

            Not quite.

It struck me that no one stands in an orchard demanding the fruit hurry up.

It ripens when it's ready.

    Patiently.

        Quietly.

            Exactly as it was created to do.

                Maybe we're not so different.

We spend so much time wishing we were further along that we forget growth has its own timeline.

Some lessons can't be rushed.

Some dreams need another season.

Some parts of us are still quietly ripening.

This Week's Reminder

Don't mistake "not yet" for "not ever." Some of the sweetest things in life simply take time.

Happy Monday, friends.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt


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Thursday, August 6, 2026

The Things We Miss When We Rush

I've been thinking about our conversation on Monday.

About the female praying mantis who unexpectedly became part of my morning.

I've smiled every time I've walked past that spot in my wildflower garden this week, wondering if she's still there... quietly doing exactly what I asked her to do.

"Eat all the buggies."

It's funny what stays with us.

But what has stayed with me isn't really the praying mantis.

It's the realization that I almost missed her completely.

Had I been thinking about my to do list...

    Checking my phone...

        Listening to a podcast...

            Or hurrying to the next thing...

                I would have watered the flowers and walked away.

Instead, I noticed.

And noticing changed my morning.

It made me wonder...

How much of life are we missing simply because we're moving too fast?

Our world has become incredibly loud.

  • Notifications.
  • Meetings.
  • Podcasts.
  • Social media.
  • Opinions.
  • Constant movement.

We've become so accustomed to noise that silence almost feels uncomfortable.

Yet I've come to believe silence isn't the problem.

It's the invitation.

Because solitude and loneliness are not the same thing.

Loneliness is feeling disconnected.

Solitude is choosing to reconnect.

Some of the most important conversations you'll ever have won't happen with another person.

They'll happen with yourself.

They begin with questions like...

  • Who am I becoming?
  • What matters most to me right now?
  • What have I been too busy to notice?

Those answers rarely arrive while we're rushing through another day.

They emerge when we become quiet enough to hear them.

Coffee Conversation

Before we finish our coffee together...

Can I leave you with just one question?

What have you been moving too quickly to notice?

Maybe it's someone who needs your attention.

    Maybe it's a dream you've quietly set aside.

        Maybe it's your own heart asking for a little breathing room.

This week, don't try to fill every quiet moment.

Protect one.

You never know what you might discover.

This Week's Reminder

The things that matter most are rarely the loudest.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt


P.S.

As this publishes, my husband and I are celebrating another wedding anniversary.

We were married in 1994, and if there's one thing these past 32 years have taught me, it's that the best relationships don't just survive change... they grow through it.

He's known every version of me.

The young woman just beginning her career.

The wife.

The mom.

The executive.

The coach.

The professor.

The nonprofit leader.

And the woman who is still becoming.

Through every season, he has loved me while I was growing, changing, succeeding, failing, questioning, grieving, healing, and finding my way.

He has celebrated my springs, carried me through my winters, believed in me during the in-between seasons, and somehow loved every version of the woman I was becoming.

Maybe that's one more reason I believe so deeply in honoring every season of life.

Because the right people don't just celebrate us when we're blooming.

They love us while our roots are growing.

Happy Anniversary, my love.

Thank you for believing in me, for giving me the freedom to become who God created me to be, and for choosing me through every season.

I still choose you.

I love you,

- ReaGrl (that Gemini girl with the rose colored glasses)


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Monday, August 3, 2026

Make Room for Quiet


One of my favorite parts of the day happens before the world fully wakes up.

Coffee in hand (or Monster, sorry Mom).

A quiet walk through the garden.

Eire exploring every interesting smell she can find and secretly stealing tomatos.

Lola, of course, watching all of us as if she's supervising the entire operation.

Nothing remarkable is happening.

And somehow...

Yesterday morning, I was watering my wildflower garden when something unexpected happened.

I discovered a female praying mantis.

As the water splashed over her, she stopped what she was doing and began carefully cleaning her eyes.

I felt terrible.

Apparently, I had interrupted her morning.

So I held out my hand.

To my surprise, she climbed right on.

For a few quiet moments, we simply looked at each other.

I thanked her for visiting.

Then I told her, "Now get to work. Eat all the buggies."

I also promised her that if she blessed my garden with an egg case this fall, I'd protect it with my life.

As I walked away, I realized something.

That tiny moment would have never happened if I had been rushing.

    If I had been checking my phone.

        If I had been thinking about the next meeting.

            It happened because I was present.

Our world is incredibly loud.

Sometimes we think we need another podcast, another meeting, another opinion, another notification.

Maybe what we really need is a few quiet moments to notice what's been there all along.

This Week's Reminder

When you slow down, you don't miss life. You finally begin to notice it.

Happy Monday, friends.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt


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Thursday, July 30, 2026

Growing at Your Own Pace

I've been thinking about our conversation on Monday.

About how easy it is to compare our lives to everyone else's.

If I'm honest, comparison still sneaks up on me sometimes.

I'll celebrate someone else's success...

...and then quietly wonder why my own journey seems to be taking longer.

Have you ever done that?

Maybe you've watched someone receive the promotion you hoped for.

    Launch the business.

        Write the book.

            Find the relationship.

                Retire.

                    Travel.

Whatever it is, comparison has a way of whispering that everyone else is moving forward while we're somehow standing still.

But that's rarely the whole story.

Imagine walking through an orchard in February and deciding every tree is dead because there isn't any fruit.

You'd simply be looking at the wrong season.

People aren't much different.

  • Some are planting.
  • Some are growing.
  • Some are harvesting.
  • Some are healing.
  • Some are gathering the courage to begin again.

Every season has purpose.

The problem begins when we expect our life to follow someone else's timeline.

As a coach, I've learned that comparison usually isn't about the other person.

It's about the story we're telling ourselves.

    Maybe we're behind.

        Maybe we're not enough.

            Maybe we should be somewhere else by now.

                But what if none of those stories are true?

What if you're exactly where you need to be to learn what only this season can teach?

Coffee Conversation

Before we finish our coffee together, I'd love for you to think about one question.

Where are you measuring your life by someone else's timeline?

Don't rush to answer.

Just notice.

Because awareness is often the first step toward freedom.

This Week's Reminder

The goal isn't to grow faster.

The goal is to grow faithfully in the season you're in.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt

P.S. Happy Birthday to my brother, Chris.  I hope this season fills your cup with endless joy.  xoxoxo


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Monday, July 27, 2026

Stop Comparing Seasons




This week, I caught myself doing something I know better than to do.

I looked at someone else's life and thought,

"They're so much farther ahead than I am."

Maybe you've been there too.

Social media has a funny way of convincing us that everyone else is blooming while we're still trying to figure things out.

But then I stopped.

I remembered something I often tell my coaching clients.

We're not all living in the same season.

        Some people are planting.

            Some are harvesting.

                Some are rebuilding after a storm.

                    Some are quietly healing.

                        And none of those seasons is more valuable than another.

Nature never compares spring to autumn.

Each season has a purpose.

So does yours.

This Week's Reminder

Don't compare your beginning, your middle, or your winter to someone else's bloom.

Happy Monday, friends.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt



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Thursday, July 23, 2026

The Rhythm of Rest

I've been thinking a lot about our conversation on Monday.

Remember when I shared that my best friend reminded me, "No." is a complete sentence?

I'll admit, I laughed.

Then I looked at my calendar and realized she wasn't just talking about saying no to other people.

She was talking about saying yes to myself.

Somewhere along the way, many of us started believing a lie.

If I'm not producing, I'm not valuable.

We'd probably never say those words out loud.

But we often live as though they're true.

        We fill every open space on our calendars.

                We answer emails during dinner.

                        We check one more thing before bed.

                                    Then we wonder why we're exhausted.

Can I ask you something?

Who taught us that being busy is the same as being important?

Because nature certainly didn't.

        The tide comes in and goes out.

            The moon has phases.

                The seasons change.

                    Even your heartbeat has a rhythm of work and rest.

Everything healthy has rhythm.

Why do we think we should be the exception?

I've noticed something in my own life recently.

The decisions I'm most proud of didn't come while I was pushing harder.

They came after a walk with Cali and Eire... while Lola quietly supervised from the bushes.

They came while sitting in my garden with a cup of coffee.

They came after giving myself permission not to have the answer immediately.

Maybe you've experienced that too.

Maybe what you're looking for isn't another productivity hack.

Maybe it's a little breathing room.

Coffee Conversation

Before we finish our coffee together, I'd love to leave you with three questions.

Not to answer right away.

Just to carry with you.

What is making you tired?

Not just physically.

    Emotionally.

        Mentally.

            Spiritually.

Now take one more step.

What are you carrying that doesn't actually belong to you?

Someone else's expectations?

        The pressure to prove yourself?

            The guilt of saying no?

Finally...

Imagine someone handed you one uninterrupted hour this week.

No obligations.

No guilt.

No agenda.

How would you spend it?

Notice I didn't ask what you would accomplish.

I asked how you would spend it.

There's a difference.

        One fills your calendar.

                The other fills your soul.

This Week's Reminder

Don't try to earn your rest.

Protect it.

Because the healthiest leaders I know aren't the ones who never stop.

They're the ones who know when it's time to.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt


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Monday, July 20, 2026

Rest Isn't the Reward. It's Part of the Work.


At the end of May, my best friend reminded me of something I apparently needed to hear.

"No." is a complete sentence.

She also reminded me that "no" doesn't require an explanation.

Say what?

Cue George Michael's "Freedom!" playing in the background.

As my calendar started shifting and commitments kept piling up, I realized something had to change.

So... I began establishing healthier boundaries.

In my coaching practice.

In my personal life.

And last week, even within one of the nonprofits I love serving.

Here's what I'm learning.

We live in a world that applauds hustle.

Busy has become a badge of honor.

But what if rest isn't the reward for hard work?

What if it is part of the work?

    The strongest athletes recover between competitions.

        Muscles grow during rest.

            Fields become fertile when they're left fallow.

                    Even nature understands that growth requires rhythm.

Maybe we should, too.

I've discovered that every time I say no to something that drains me, I'm really saying yes to something that matters more.

  • Yes to my health.
  • Yes to my peace.
  • Yes to being fully present with the people and work I care about most.

This Week's Reminder

Every "no" creates space for a more meaningful "yes."

Happy Monday, friends.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt



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Thursday, July 16, 2026

Growing Beneath the Surface

On Monday, I shared that life has become a little quieter.

After two years of serving as President of Soroptimist International of Lincoln, I'm discovering that slowing down isn't as easy as I imagined.

I've become so accustomed to movement that quiet almost feels unfamiliar.

As I've been reading Wintering by Katherine May, one idea has stayed with me all week.

We spend much of our lives believing that every day should feel productive, joyful, energetic, and full of momentum. When it doesn't, we assume something is wrong with us.

But nature tells a very different story.

·       Nothing in nature blooms all year.

·       Forests have winters.

·       Fields lie fallow.

·       Bears hibernate.

·       Trees appear lifeless while quietly strengthening their roots beneath the frozen ground.

Yet somehow, we expect ourselves to keep producing, smiling, achieving, and giving without interruption.

Perhaps that's where so much of our exhaustion begins.

I've come to realize that winter is not the opposite of growth.

It is part of growth.

Some of my greatest lessons didn't arrive during seasons of success.

·       They came through disappointment.

  • Grief.
  • Uncertainty.
  • Betrayal.
  • Unexpected endings.
  • Moments when I questioned what was next.

At the time, I wanted those seasons to end as quickly as possible.

Looking back, I can't erase them.

                                                But I also wouldn't.

Those winters taught me patience when I wanted certainty.

They taught me compassion when I had become too quick to judge.

One lesson surprised me more than the others.

  • Winter taught me that I can protect my heart without hardening it.
  • I can establish healthy boundaries without building walls.
  • I can become wiser without becoming cynical (which may be one of adulthood's hardest lessons).

Those seasons also reminded me that my worth isn't measured by how busy I am or how much I accomplish.

Strength doesn't always look like pushing harder.

    Sometimes strength looks like resting.

        Sometimes courage looks like asking for help.

            Sometimes wisdom looks like waiting.

As a coach, I often meet people who believe they've somehow fallen behind because they're in a difficult season.

They're comparing their winter to someone else's spring.

But that's never a fair comparison.

Everyone carries unseen winters.  

    The leader you admire. 

        The friend who always seems positive.

            The business owner who appears successful.

                The neighbor who looks like they have everything together.

None of us are exempt from seasons of loss, transition, doubt, or quiet rebuilding.

Winter has a purpose.

It slows us down long enough to notice what really matters.

And perhaps that's its greatest gift.

Coffee Conversation

Before we finish our coffee together, can I leave you with one question?

What season are you trying to rush through because it feels uncomfortable?

Don't answer it too quickly.

Sit with it.  

Finish your coffee.

Sometimes the question is doing work inside us long before we discover the answer.

Spring always comes.

But when it does, it arrives because winter first did its work.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt


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Monday, July 13, 2026

You don't have to bloom in every season to keep growing.


For the past two years, my calendar has rarely had room to breathe.

Serving as President of Soroptimist International of Lincoln has been one of the greatest honors of my life.

It was also one of the busiest seasons I've ever experienced.

And now...

Things are quieter.

I'll admit, quiet feels a little strange.

·       We celebrate the seasons of blooming.

·       The promotions.

·       The victories.

·       The answered prayers.

·       The moments when everything seems to be working.

But life was never designed to be spring all the time.

Sometimes we find ourselves in winter. A season that feels quieter, slower, and perhaps a little lonelier than we expected.

What if winter isn't something to survive as quickly as possible?

What if it is preparing you for what comes next?

Trees don't apologize for becoming dormant.

They're conserving strength for the season ahead.

Maybe you don't need to bloom today.

Maybe today your job is simply to rest, heal, learn, and trust that growth is still happening beneath the surface.

Your spring will come.

Until then, honor your winter.

This Week's Reminder

You don't have to bloom in every season to keep growing.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt

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Thursday, July 9, 2026

Actions Are the Truth

In early June, a friend said something so simple that I haven't stopped thinking about it.

"People show you who they are through their actions."

At the same time, I happened to be rereading The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. The two ideas seemed to fit together perfectly. Both are reminders that we spend far too much energy trying to explain, excuse, or change other people when, more often than not, their consistent actions have already given us the answer.

At first, I nodded and moved on. But over the weeks, I found myself replaying those words in different situations.

  • A missed commitment.
  • An unexpected act of kindness.
  • Someone who said all the right things but never followed through.
  • Someone else who rarely spoke about their character but quietly lived it every day.

It made me realize something both uncomfortable and freeing.

We spend an incredible amount of time listening to what people say. We analyze conversations, search for hidden meanings, and often give people the benefit of the doubt because we want to believe the best about them.

  • Yet actions rarely lie.
  • Actions reveal priorities.
  • Actions reveal values.
  • Actions reveal integrity.

Words tell us who someone wants to be. Actions tell us who they are today.

That doesn't mean people can't grow. We all have moments where our actions fall short of our intentions. Growth requires grace. But growth also requires accountability. If someone continually tells you one thing while consistently doing another, eventually you have to believe the evidence.

Yesterday, my mom made me laugh with an analogy I haven't been able to shake.

She said, "Some people are like a bad pancake. Burnt on one side but served with the golden-brown side up. They look good until you take a bite."

I laughed, but then I realized there was wisdom tucked inside her humor.

Over time, life has a way of flipping the pancake.

Consistent actions reveal what words and appearances often hide.

As I thought more about it, I realized this lesson extends far beyond our relationships with others.

It forces us to look inward.

  • What do my actions communicate?
  • If I say family comes first, does my calendar reflect that?
  • If I say I value my health, do my daily habits agree?
  • If I claim to be a leader, do my actions make others feel valued, heard, and empowered?
  • If I say faith is important, does the way I treat people reflect it?

Character isn't built in grand moments. It's revealed in ordinary ones.

It's found in the promises we keep when no one is watching.

        The emails we return.

                The encouragement we offer.

                        The apologies we make.

                                The commitments we honor.

The way we speak about people when they aren't in the room.

The encouraging part is this: actions are within our control.

If our actions haven't reflected the person we aspire to become, today is a new opportunity. We don't need a dramatic reinvention. We simply need the courage to align our behavior with our values, one decision at a time.

  • People are watching.
  • Our children are watching.
  • Our coworkers are watching.
  • Our friends are watching.

But most importantly, we are becoming the person our actions repeatedly reinforce.

So this week, pay less attention to impressive words and more attention to consistent behavior, both in others and in yourself.

Because in the end, actions don't just reveal character.

They create it.

Happy Thursday, all,

-srt


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Monday, July 6, 2026

What Your Actions Say About You


Someone shared a simple truth with me a few weeks ago that I haven't been able to shake:

People show you who they are through their actions.

Not their promises.
Not their intentions.
Not the version of themselves they describe.

Their actions.

Pay attention to the people who consistently show up.
The ones who keep their word.
The ones who make time.
The ones whose behavior matches their values.

And while you're watching others, ask yourself the same question:

What are my actions teaching people about me?

Because long after our words are forgotten, our actions become our reputation.

Lovelies, have a week where what you do speaks louder than what you say.

-srt

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Thursday, July 2, 2026

See the Good in Everything

"Being positive isn't pretending that everything is good; it's seeing the good in everything."

This quote challenges one of the biggest misconceptions about positivity. Many people believe being positive means ignoring reality, suppressing difficult emotions, or putting on a smile when life is falling apart. But genuine positivity isn't about denial ... it's about perspective.

Life will always contain both blessings and burdens. There will be seasons of growth and seasons of struggle. There will be victories worth celebrating and disappointments that test our resilience. Positivity doesn't ask us to ignore the difficult moments. Instead, it invites us to look deeper and ask:

What can I learn from this?
How can I grow through this?
What good still exists, even here?

When we practice this mindset, challenges become opportunities to build strength. Mistakes become lessons. Delays become chances to develop patience. Even painful experiences can reveal courage, compassion, wisdom, or a new direction we may never have discovered otherwise.

This doesn't mean every situation is good. Some experiences are genuinely difficult, unfair, or heartbreaking. Yet even in those moments, there is often something valuable we can carry forward: a lesson, a connection, a renewed appreciation, a stronger character, or a clearer sense of purpose.

This week, try experimenting with positivity in practical ways:

The Reframe Challenge
When something doesn't go as planned, pause and ask yourself, "What else could this mean?" Look for an alternative perspective before settling on frustration or disappointment.

Find Three Good Things
At the end of each day, write down three positive moments, no matter how small. A meaningful conversation, a good cup of coffee, a completed task, or simply making it through a tough day all count.

Look for Hidden Lessons
The next time you face a setback, ask yourself, "What is this experience teaching me that success never could?"

Practice Gratitude During Difficulty
Don't wait for life to be perfect to be grateful. Find one thing to appreciate even on challenging days. Gratitude and struggle can exist together.

Become a Good Finder
Make it your mission to notice something positive in every person you encounter. You may be surprised by how much your relationships and interactions improve.

Replace Complaints with Curiosity
Instead of immediately asking, "Why is this happening to me?" try asking, "What can I learn from this?" or "How can I respond in a way that aligns with who I want to be?"

The truth is, our perspective shapes our experience. The more we train ourselves to recognize possibilities, lessons, and blessings, the more resilient and hopeful we become.

As you move through the rest of this week, remember: positivity isn't about pretending the storm isn't there. It's about trusting that there is still something valuable to be found, learned, or appreciated, even while the rain is falling.

What is one challenge you've faced recently that ended up teaching you something valuable?

Happy Thursday all,

-srt

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Monday, June 29, 2026

Being Positive isn't Pretending that Everything is Good; It's Seeing the Good in Everything


Life isn’t always perfect, and positivity doesn’t mean ignoring challenges or pretending pain doesn’t exist. True positivity is choosing to look beyond the obstacle and finding the lesson, opportunity, or strength hidden within it.

This week, instead of focusing on what’s going wrong, focus on what’s still going right. Every setback carries a lesson. Every challenge builds resilience. Every new day brings another chance to grow, improve, and move closer to your goals.

Start this week with gratitude.
    Embrace the lessons in the struggles.
        Celebrate the small wins.
            Trust that even difficult seasons are shaping you for something greater.

Remember: Your perspective has the power to change your experience. Look for the good, and you'll find reasons to keep moving forward.

Make this Monday the beginning of a week filled with purpose, growth, and possibility. 

You've got this!

-srt


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Thursday, June 25, 2026

Are You Leading... or Are You the Bottleneck?

One of the hardest truths for leaders to accept is this:

If your team cannot move forward without your approval, your input, or your constant presence, you may not be leading as effectively as you think.

Many leaders wear their indispensability as a badge of honor. They pride themselves on being involved in every decision, copied on every email, and consulted on every challenge. It feels responsible. It feels productive. It feels like leadership.

But often, it's the opposite.

When every decision flows through one person, progress slows. Innovation stalls. Confidence erodes. Team members stop thinking independently because they learn that every answer will eventually come from the leader anyway.

Strong leadership isn't measured by how many decisions you make.

It's measured by how many decisions your team can make well without you.

The real goal of leadership is not to create dependence. 

It's to develop capability.

I am going to repeat that ... 

The real goal of leadership is not to create dependence. It's to develop capability.

Great leaders invest time in building trust, creating clarity, coaching decision-making, and empowering people to own outcomes. They understand that leadership is not about being the smartest person in the room. It's about creating a room full of people who can think, solve problems, and lead themselves.

Ask yourself:

  • Do people come to me for every answer?
  • Have I clearly defined expectations and boundaries?
  • Am I solving problems that my team should be solving?
  • Am I developing leaders, or creating followers?

The strongest teams are not the ones that wait for permission.

They are the ones that understand the mission, embrace accountability, and move forward with confidence.

As leaders, our success should not be measured by how many times we are cc'd today.  

It should be measured by how capable our teams become tomorrow.

The ultimate test of leadership is not whether everything stops when you step away. It's whether everything continues to thrive because of the foundation you built.

That's something worth thinking about this Thursday.

Happy Thursday lovelies,

-srt



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Monday, June 22, 2026

If your team can't move without your approval, you're not leading ... you've become the bottleneck.

 


If you're a leader who has to be involved in everything, this message is for you.

If your team can't move without your approval, you're not leading ... you've become the bottleneck.

And that's a problem.

Leadership isn't about making every decision. It's about developing people who can make good decisions without you.

So where do you start?

This week, challenge yourself to delegate more. Ask someone else to lead a meeting, chair a committee, or own a project.  And then step aside.

Will they do it exactly the way you would? Probably not.

And that's okay.

Growth happens when people are given the opportunity to think, act, and lead for themselves. That requires trust. It requires empowerment. And sometimes, it requires leaders to let go of the need to control every outcome.

The goal is not to be needed for everything.

The goal is to build a team that thrives because of your leadership, not your constant involvement.

Remember: strong leaders don't create followers. They develop strong thinkers who are confident, capable, and ready to lead.

Wishing everyone a productive and empowering week ahead.

Happy Monday!

— srt

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Thursday, June 18, 2026

Looking Through the Window: What StrengthsFinder Revealed

There is something fascinating about watching someone discover themselves.

Not in a dramatic, life-altering moment, but in the quiet realization that the things they've always done naturally; the habits, instincts, and ways they move through the world, actually have names. More importantly, those traits are not accidents. They are strengths.

Recently, I watched someone take the StrengthsFinder 2.0 assessment by Tom Rath. Like many personality and leadership assessments, it promised insight. What it delivered was something more profound: language.

The results came back with five dominant strengths:

  1. Relator
  2. Strategic
  3. Achiever
  4. Significance
  5. Self-Assurance

At first glance, they seem like individual characteristics. But when viewed together, they tell a much larger story.

The Relator

The Relator isn't interested in collecting relationships like trophies. They seek depth over breadth. They would rather have a handful of meaningful conversations than spend time surrounded by a crowd of acquaintances.

Watching a Relator move through life is like watching someone build bridges instead of networks. They crave authenticity. They want to know what matters to people, what keeps them awake at night, what dreams they carry quietly.

The world often celebrates visibility. Relators celebrate connection.

The Strategic Thinker

Then there is Strategic.

Some people see obstacles. Strategic thinkers see options.

They have an uncanny ability to scan a situation and identify pathways that others miss. While others are standing at a crossroads wondering which direction to take, the Strategic thinker has already mapped three possible routes and anticipated the challenges along each one.

It isn't about having all the answers.

It's about seeing possibilities where others see limitations.

The Achiever

If Strategic creates the map, Achiever fuels the journey.

Achievers wake up every day with an internal engine already running. They gain energy from progress. They thrive on movement, accomplishment, and crossing finish lines.

For an Achiever, productivity isn't simply about checking boxes. It is about purpose. There is satisfaction in building, creating, improving, and moving something forward.

Rest can feel uncomfortable because progress feels like home.

Significance

Significance often gets misunderstood.

It is not about seeking attention. It is about wanting work and life to matter.

People with this strength are drawn toward impact. They are motivated by the idea that what they do can leave a mark, influence a life, or create meaningful change.

Mediocrity feels hollow because significance demands purpose.

These are the people who ask, "Why does this matter?" before asking, "What's next?"

Self-Assurance

And then there is Self-Assurance.

This strength carries a quiet confidence. It is the ability to trust one's judgment even when the path ahead is uncertain.

While others may seek constant validation, someone with Self-Assurance listens to their inner compass.

It isn't arrogance.

It is a deep belief that they can navigate whatever comes next.

They may not always know the outcome, but they trust themselves to figure it out.

The Bigger Picture

Watching these strengths come together is like seeing pieces of a puzzle finally fit.

  • A person who builds deep relationships.
  • A person who sees possibilities.
  • A person driven to achieve.
  • A person motivated by impact.
  • A person who trusts themselves enough to keep moving forward.

Individually, each strength is powerful.

Together, they create a portrait of someone who is deeply connected, purpose-driven, strategic in thought, relentless in action, and confident in execution.

And then comes the realization.

The person being observed isn't someone else.  It's me.

  • I am the one who seeks meaningful relationships instead of surface conversations.
  • I am the one constantly looking for the next possibility, the next path forward.
  • I am the one who wakes up with goals to accomplish and dreams to pursue.
  • I am the one who wants my work, my words, and my life to matter.
  • I am the one who trusts that even when I don't have all the answers, I can find my way.

These strengths help explain how I move through the world.

But they do not define the limits of who I am.

Because I am a Relator, a Strategic thinker, an Achiever, someone driven by Significance, and someone grounded in Self-Assurance.

And I am so much more.

I am the lessons I've learned, the relationships I've built, the failures I've overcome, the risks I've taken, and the dreams I continue to chase.

StrengthsFinder didn't tell me who I am.

It simply held up a mirror and reflected back some of the qualities that were already there.

The rest of the story is still being written.

Happy Monday all,

-srt

P.S. One of the reasons I love StrengthsFinder is that it doesn't put people in a box... it gives them a framework for understanding how they naturally show up in the world. In my coaching practice, I use StrengthsFinder to help leaders, entrepreneurs, and professionals uncover what energizes them, where they create the most value, and how they can lead with greater confidence and authenticity.

Curious how I use StrengthsFinder in coaching? Ask me. I'd love to share how understanding your strengths can transform the way you work, lead, and live.


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