Growing at Your Own Pace

I've been thinking about our conversation on Monday.

About how easy it is to compare our lives to everyone else's.

If I'm honest, comparison still sneaks up on me sometimes.

I'll celebrate someone else's success...

...and then quietly wonder why my own journey seems to be taking longer.

Have you ever done that?

Maybe you've watched someone receive the promotion you hoped for.

    Launch the business.

        Write the book.

            Find the relationship.

                Retire.

                    Travel.

Whatever it is, comparison has a way of whispering that everyone else is moving forward while we're somehow standing still.

But that's rarely the whole story.

Imagine walking through an orchard in February and deciding every tree is dead because there isn't any fruit.

You'd simply be looking at the wrong season.

People aren't much different.

• Some are planting.
• Some are growing.
• Some are harvesting.
• Some are healing.
• Some are gathering the courage to begin again.

Every season has purpose.

The problem begins when we expect our life to follow someone else's timeline.

As a coach, I've learned that comparison usually isn't about the other person.

It's about the story we're telling ourselves.

    Maybe we're behind.

        Maybe we're not enough.

            Maybe we should be somewhere else by now.

                But what if none of those stories are true?

What if you're exactly where you need to be to learn what only this season can teach?

Coffee Conversation

Before we finish our coffee together, I'd love for you to think about one question.

Where are you measuring your life by someone else's timeline?

Don't rush to answer.

Just notice.

Because awareness is often the first step toward freedom.

This Week's Reminder

The goal isn't to grow faster.

The goal is to grow faithfully in the season you're in.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt

P.S. Happy Birthday to my brother, Chris.  I hope this season fills your cup with endless joy.  xoxoxo

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Stop Comparing Seasons

This week, I caught myself doing something I know better than to do.

I looked at someone else's life and thought,

"They're so much farther ahead than I am."

Maybe you've been there too.

Social media has a funny way of convincing us that everyone else is blooming while we're still trying to figure things out.

But then I stopped.

I remembered something I often tell my coaching clients.

We're not all living in the same season.

        Some people are planting.

            Some are harvesting.

                Some are rebuilding after a storm.

                    Some are quietly healing.

                        And none of those seasons is more valuable than another.

Nature never compares spring to autumn.

Each season has a purpose.

So does yours.

This Week's Reminder

Don't compare your beginning, your middle, or your winter to someone else's bloom.

Happy Monday, friends.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt

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The Rhythm of Rest

I've been thinking a lot about our conversation on Monday.

Remember when I shared that my best friend reminded me, "No." is a complete sentence?

I'll admit, I laughed.

Then I looked at my calendar and realized she wasn't just talking about saying no to other people.

She was talking about saying yes to myself.

Somewhere along the way, many of us started believing a lie.

If I'm not producing, I'm not valuable.

We'd probably never say those words out loud.

But we often live as though they're true.

        We fill every open space on our calendars.

                We answer emails during dinner.

                        We check one more thing before bed.

                                    Then we wonder why we're exhausted.

Can I ask you something?

Who taught us that being busy is the same as being important?

Because nature certainly didn't.

        The tide comes in and goes out.

            The moon has phases.

                The seasons change.

                    Even your heartbeat has a rhythm of work and rest.

Everything healthy has rhythm.

Why do we think we should be the exception?

I've noticed something in my own life recently.

The decisions I'm most proud of didn't come while I was pushing harder.

They came after a walk with Cali and Eire... while Lola quietly supervised from the bushes.

They came while sitting in my garden with a cup of coffee.

They came after giving myself permission not to have the answer immediately.

Maybe you've experienced that too.

Maybe what you're looking for isn't another productivity hack.

Maybe it's a little breathing room.

Coffee Conversation

Before we finish our coffee together, I'd love to leave you with three questions.

Not to answer right away.

Just to carry with you.

What is making you tired?

Not just physically.

    Emotionally.

        Mentally.

            Spiritually.

Now take one more step.

What are you carrying that doesn't actually belong to you?

Someone else's expectations?

        The pressure to prove yourself?

            The guilt of saying no?

Finally...

Imagine someone handed you one uninterrupted hour this week.

No obligations.

No guilt.

No agenda.

How would you spend it?

Notice I didn't ask what you would accomplish.

I asked how you would spend it.

There's a difference.

        One fills your calendar.

                The other fills your soul.

This Week's Reminder

Don't try to earn your rest.

Protect it.

Because the healthiest leaders I know aren't the ones who never stop.

They're the ones who know when it's time to.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt

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