Thursday, August 6, 2026

The Things We Miss When We Rush

I've been thinking about our conversation on Monday.

About the female praying mantis who unexpectedly became part of my morning.

I've smiled every time I've walked past that spot in my wildflower garden this week, wondering if she's still there... quietly doing exactly what I asked her to do.

"Eat all the buggies."

It's funny what stays with us.

But what has stayed with me isn't really the praying mantis.

It's the realization that I almost missed her completely.

Had I been thinking about my to do list...

    Checking my phone...

        Listening to a podcast...

            Or hurrying to the next thing...

                I would have watered the flowers and walked away.

Instead, I noticed.

And noticing changed my morning.

It made me wonder...

How much of life are we missing simply because we're moving too fast?

Our world has become incredibly loud.

  • Notifications.
  • Meetings.
  • Podcasts.
  • Social media.
  • Opinions.
  • Constant movement.

We've become so accustomed to noise that silence almost feels uncomfortable.

Yet I've come to believe silence isn't the problem.

It's the invitation.

Because solitude and loneliness are not the same thing.

Loneliness is feeling disconnected.

Solitude is choosing to reconnect.

Some of the most important conversations you'll ever have won't happen with another person.

They'll happen with yourself.

They begin with questions like...

  • Who am I becoming?
  • What matters most to me right now?
  • What have I been too busy to notice?

Those answers rarely arrive while we're rushing through another day.

They emerge when we become quiet enough to hear them.

Coffee Conversation

Before we finish our coffee together...

Can I leave you with just one question?

What have you been moving too quickly to notice?

Maybe it's someone who needs your attention.

    Maybe it's a dream you've quietly set aside.

        Maybe it's your own heart asking for a little breathing room.

This week, don't try to fill every quiet moment.

Protect one.

You never know what you might discover.

This Week's Reminder

The things that matter most are rarely the loudest.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt


P.S.

As this publishes, my husband and I are celebrating another wedding anniversary.

We were married in 1994, and if there's one thing these past 32 years have taught me, it's that the best relationships don't just survive change... they grow through it.

He's known every version of me.

The young woman just beginning her career.

The wife.

The mom.

The executive.

The coach.

The professor.

The nonprofit leader.

And the woman who is still becoming.

Through every season, he has loved me while I was growing, changing, succeeding, failing, questioning, grieving, healing, and finding my way.

He has celebrated my springs, carried me through my winters, believed in me during the in-between seasons, and somehow loved every version of the woman I was becoming.

Maybe that's one more reason I believe so deeply in honoring every season of life.

Because the right people don't just celebrate us when we're blooming.

They love us while our roots are growing.

Happy Anniversary, my love.

Thank you for believing in me, for giving me the freedom to become who God created me to be, and for choosing me through every season.

I still choose you.

I love you,

- ReaGrl (that Gemini girl with the rose colored glasses)


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Monday, August 3, 2026

Make Room for Quiet


One of my favorite parts of the day happens before the world fully wakes up.

Coffee in hand (or Monster, sorry Mom).

A quiet walk through the garden.

Eire exploring every interesting smell she can find and secretly stealing tomatos.

Lola, of course, watching all of us as if she's supervising the entire operation.

Nothing remarkable is happening.

And somehow...

Yesterday morning, I was watering my wildflower garden when something unexpected happened.

I discovered a female praying mantis.

As the water splashed over her, she stopped what she was doing and began carefully cleaning her eyes.

I felt terrible.

Apparently, I had interrupted her morning.

So I held out my hand.

To my surprise, she climbed right on.

For a few quiet moments, we simply looked at each other.

I thanked her for visiting.

Then I told her, "Now get to work. Eat all the buggies."

I also promised her that if she blessed my garden with an egg case this fall, I'd protect it with my life.

As I walked away, I realized something.

That tiny moment would have never happened if I had been rushing.

    If I had been checking my phone.

        If I had been thinking about the next meeting.

            It happened because I was present.

Our world is incredibly loud.

Sometimes we think we need another podcast, another meeting, another opinion, another notification.

Maybe what we really need is a few quiet moments to notice what's been there all along.

This Week's Reminder

When you slow down, you don't miss life. You finally begin to notice it.

Happy Monday, friends.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt


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Thursday, July 30, 2026

Growing at Your Own Pace

I've been thinking about our conversation on Monday.

About how easy it is to compare our lives to everyone else's.

If I'm honest, comparison still sneaks up on me sometimes.

I'll celebrate someone else's success...

...and then quietly wonder why my own journey seems to be taking longer.

Have you ever done that?

Maybe you've watched someone receive the promotion you hoped for.

    Launch the business.

        Write the book.

            Find the relationship.

                Retire.

                    Travel.

Whatever it is, comparison has a way of whispering that everyone else is moving forward while we're somehow standing still.

But that's rarely the whole story.

Imagine walking through an orchard in February and deciding every tree is dead because there isn't any fruit.

You'd simply be looking at the wrong season.

People aren't much different.

  • Some are planting.
  • Some are growing.
  • Some are harvesting.
  • Some are healing.
  • Some are gathering the courage to begin again.

Every season has purpose.

The problem begins when we expect our life to follow someone else's timeline.

As a coach, I've learned that comparison usually isn't about the other person.

It's about the story we're telling ourselves.

    Maybe we're behind.

        Maybe we're not enough.

            Maybe we should be somewhere else by now.

                But what if none of those stories are true?

What if you're exactly where you need to be to learn what only this season can teach?

Coffee Conversation

Before we finish our coffee together, I'd love for you to think about one question.

Where are you measuring your life by someone else's timeline?

Don't rush to answer.

Just notice.

Because awareness is often the first step toward freedom.

This Week's Reminder

The goal isn't to grow faster.

The goal is to grow faithfully in the season you're in.

Until next time, keep leading with strength and living with purpose.

-srt

P.S. Happy Birthday to my brother, Chris.  I hope this season fills your cup with endless joy.  xoxoxo


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