Rising Above: How to Work With (and Around) BIG Personalities in Every Part of Life

There’s a truth we don’t talk about enough: BIG personalities don’t disappear after high school. They evolve.

They show up in college group projects, on community boards, in volunteer circles, and sometimes even around the dinner table. These are the people who thrive on being in control — dominating conversations, pushing boundaries, or dismissing others — and no matter where you find them, the impact can feel just as personal.

But here’s the good news: you're not powerless. Not in class. Not in a meeting. Not in life.

Let’s talk about how to stand your ground, protect your peace, and stay empowered when faced with BIG personalities — wherever they show up.

1. Name It Without Shame

BIG personalities don’t always shout. Sometimes, they use sarcasm that cuts too deep, the silent treatment that isolates, or “jokes” that hit below the belt. They may hide behind popularity, seniority, or a leadership role.

But whether it’s the president of a student club, a board member in a nonprofit, or that one peer who talks over everyone — remember this: power moves are not leadership.

Calling out toxic or dominating behavior doesn’t make you weak — it gives you clarity and control.

2. Don’t Shrink — Strategize

People with overpowering personalities often thrive on reactions. They want to feel big by making others feel small.

So instead of getting pulled into their emotional storm, anchor yourself. Stay calm. Speak clearly. Take the high road — but don't be silent.

• In class? “I’d like to finish my thought before we move on.”

• In a club meeting? “Let’s hear from someone who hasn’t spoken yet.”

• In a conversation? “That doesn’t feel constructive — can we focus on a solution?”

You don’t have to match their energy. You just have to own yours.

3. Set Boundaries Like a Boss

Boundaries are not walls — they’re guardrails for respect.

You can be kind and assertive. Compassionate and clear. And sometimes, a simple “That’s not okay with me” is enough to shift the tone.

In school, service, or at home — you deserve to feel safe and heard. Boundaries tell others how to treat you. And the right people? They’ll respect them.

4. Build a Circle That Builds You Back

Dealing with intense personalities can feel isolating. They may make you question your instincts, your voice, even your worth.

That’s why it’s essential to find your people — the classmate who backs you up, the friend who listens without judgment, the mentor who reminds you of your value, the "joy tribe" in your non-profit. You don’t have to navigate it alone.

And here’s the secret: when you speak up, you don’t just empower yourself — you give others permission to do the same.

5. Protect Your Peace Like It’s Sacred (Because It Is)

Your peace is not up for negotiation.

People with overpowering personalities don’t get to define your worth — you do. So take space when you need it. Journal. Meditate. Move your body. Laugh with friends. Set limits. Say no. Say yes — to what feeds your soul.

You don’t need to win every argument. You just need to stay true to yourself.

Final Word: Your Power Was Never Theirs to Take

BIG personalities might be loud, but your calm, your clarity, and your quiet strength? That’s louder.

Whether it’s a dominating peer, an overbearing teammate, or someone who constantly takes up too much space — remember:

You can rise without permission.
You can speak without shouting.
You can be powerful without being cruel.

And when you do? You don’t just protect your peace — you inspire others to stand in their own.

Stand tall. Speak true. And never shrink for someone else’s comfort.

You’ve got this.

Happy Thursday lovelies,

-srt