Lovelies, it's time to talk about a game-changer. Mel Robbins' Let Them Theory might just be the pep talk you didn’t know you needed. I mean, we’re all busy juggling work, relationships, life admin, and maybe even a side hustle or two (no big deal, right?). The last thing we need is another complicated set of rules to follow. But trust me, this book? It’s a breath of fresh air.
Let’s break down the Let Them Theory and how it can
help you embrace your inner badass without the guilt, shame, or burnout.
Spoiler: It's about doing less, not more.
1. Let Them Be Themselves (Yes, Even When It's Annoying)
We’ve all been there—someone’s acting a little extra
(looking at you, Susan in HR), and your first instinct is to fix it, or worse,
judge them. But Mel’s theory encourages a completely different mindset: let
them be. Let people do their thing, even if it's driving you up the wall. After
all, their actions don’t define your happiness.
The real freedom comes from letting go of that need to
control others. Think of it as freeing up precious mental space for things that
actually matter. Like, I don’t know… binge-watching that show you’ve been dying
to catch up on?
2. Let Yourself Off the Hook (Perfection is Overrated)
Perfectionism? Repeat after me … “that is soooo 2020.” Mel's
mantra is simple: you don’t have to have it all together. In fact, trying to be
perfect is the quickest route to exhaustion and disappointment. Instead, the Let
Them Theory encourages us to embrace imperfection. This doesn’t mean you
stop striving for greatness—just that you stop beating yourself up when things
don’t go according to plan.
Your best might not always look like someone else’s best,
and that’s OK. Sometimes your "best" is just making it through the
day with a smile (and no lipstick on your teeth, no judgment).
3. Let Go of the Guilt (You Deserve It)
Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt guilty for doing
something nice for yourself. (Yeah, I see you). Mel says it’s time to stop that
madness. Self-care is not selfish; it's essential. Guilt doesn’t get to rule
your life. Whether it's taking a 30-minute break, enjoying a glass of wine on a
Tuesday night, or buying those shoes you’ve had your eye on for months—let
yourself have it.
You’re not a robot. You’re a human. And humans need breaks,
joy, and – if you are me - cute shoes and purses (yes, I have a shoe and purse
problem). Trust me, the world will keep turning if you take that moment for
yourself.
4. Let Them Be the Experts (You Don’t Have to Know
Everything)
Let’s face it—women are notorious for feeling like we need
to have all the answers. Whether it’s fixing a broken shelf or solving a
complicated work problem, we can feel the pressure to know everything. But
guess what? You don’t have to. In fact, Mel encourages us to let others shine
in their areas of expertise. You don’t need to be the all-knowing guru of
everything.
Let people be great at what they do. And let yourself be
great at what you do—without feeling like you need to be everything to
everyone.
5. Let Yourself Have Fun (It’s Not a Luxury, It’s a
Necessity)
Life is serious enough, so why not have some fun with it?
Mel reminds us that we deserve to have joy, laughter, and spontaneous
adventures. Don’t wait until everything is "perfect" to let loose.
Life is happening now, so grab it by the horns—and make sure there’s time for
some laughter along the way.
My dear friend shared with me her goal this year is to live
life fully and part of that meant to invest time intentionally with purpose.
Yes!! Let’s LIVE. Not just in 2025. Let’s fully live everyday for all of our days.
Whether it’s a weekend getaway with friends, or just a
spontaneous dance party in your living room, embrace the fun. It's essential
for your mental health and overall well-being.
6. Let Go of What Doesn’t Serve You (Even If It’s Hard)
This is the tough one. Sometimes we have to let go of
things—or people—that don’t serve our higher purpose. Whether it’s a toxic work
environment, a friendship that’s more draining than uplifting, or that dress
that just never seems to fit right (even though you’ve been holding onto it for
years)—let it go.
You can’t move forward if you’re holding on to things that
are holding you back. Mel’s advice here is all about honoring your personal
growth and making space for the good stuff.
7. The Power of Perspective (Thanks, Lisa Bilyeu)
Here’s the cherry on top: Lisa Bilyeu, co-founder of Quest
Nutrition and all-around powerhouse, brings a mind-blowing framework to the
table: The Power of Perspective. And no, it’s not just some fluffy concept—it’s
the real deal when it comes to handling the tough stuff.
Lisa talks about how, as human beings, we often see the
world from our own point of view and assume we’re right (cue the classic
“I’m always right” internal dialogue). But here’s the twist: by shifting
your perspective and trying to understand where the other person is coming
from, you instantly relieve yourself of so much unnecessary stress.
Instead of reacting defensively or jumping to conclusions,
take a moment to pause and ask: Why is this person acting this way? What
might they be going through? When you change your perspective, you open
yourself up to more empathy, understanding, and peace. No one has it all
figured out, and seeing things through someone else’s eyes can free you from
the constant need to fix or control everything and everyone.
In the end, Mel Robbins' Let Them Theory is all about
releasing control, embracing imperfection, and giving yourself the permission
to just be. It’s a simple shift in mindset that can radically change the
way you approach your life. And as women, we’re pretty damn good at juggling a
million things at once—so why not give ourselves the freedom to let go of the
unnecessary stress?
Remember: You don’t have to do it all. You’re allowed
to take breaks, let others do their thing, and most importantly, have some fun
along the way. So go ahead—let them be, let yourself off the hook, and let joy
in.
You’ve earned it. 💖
Happy Thursday all,
-srt
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