24 Books in 2024: A Year of Literary Adventures

 

As the year comes to a close, I find myself reflecting on one of my most enriching experiences of 2024—completing a 24-book reading challenge (24in2024) by reading 34 books! It was a journey through diverse genres, captivating stories, and profound insights. Here’s a glimpse into my literary adventure:

January to March: Setting the Tone

The year began with a diverse and inspiring lineup of books that set a strong foundation for the challenge.

1. We Are All the Same in the Dark by Julia Heaberlin: This gripping thriller delved into the mysteries and hidden secrets of a small Texas town.
2. The 5 AM Club by Robin Sharma: A transformative read that introduced the concept of rising early to maximize productivity and well-being.
3. Good Vibes, Good Life by Vex King: A motivational guide to self-love and positive thinking that left a lasting impact.
4. The Communication Book by Mikael Krogerus and Roman Tschäppeler: This book provided 44 tools to enhance communication skills, making it a practical and enlightening read.
5. Make Your Bed by Admiral William H. McRaven: Simple, yet profound lessons on life and leadership from a Navy SEAL.
6. The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy: A transformative read about how small, consistent actions can lead to significant results.
7. Surrounded by Idiots by Thomas Erikson: An insightful book on different personality types and how to communicate effectively with each.
8. Talk Like TED by Carmine Gallo: An inspiring guide on how to deliver powerful and impactful presentations.
9. Book Lovers by Emily Henry: A delightful contemporary romance that explores the intricacies of love and friendship.

These books not only entertained but also offered valuable lessons and insights, setting a positive tone for the months to come.

April to June: Deep Dives and Discoveries

Spring brought a thirst for knowledge and self-improvement, with a focus on psychology, personal development, and practical wisdom.

1. The Art of Thinking Clearly by Rolf Dobelli: This book offered insightful lessons on cognitive biases and how to avoid them for better decision-making.
2. The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy: A transformative read about harnessing the potential of the subconscious mind to achieve personal and professional goals.
3. The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga: An enlightening dialogue on self-acceptance and the philosophy of Alfred Adler.
4. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant by Eric Jorgenson: A comprehensive compilation of Naval Ravikant's wisdom on wealth, happiness, and life.
5. How to Finish Everything You Start by Jan Yager: A practical guide to overcoming procrastination and developing the discipline to complete projects.
6. The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel: A compelling exploration of how our thoughts and emotions influence financial decisions.
7. Atomic Habits by James Clear: An empowering guide on the power of small, consistent changes to transform habits and achieve success.
8. Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace: A complex and expansive novel that challenges and rewards readers in equal measure.

July to September: Summers of Suspense and Growth

The heat of summer brought an eclectic mix of reads, from thrillers and romance to personal development and humor.

1. The Things We Leave Unfinished by Rebecca Yarros: A moving story of love and loss, interwoven with the complexities of unfinished business.
2. The Mystery Guest by Nita Prose: A delightful and intriguing mystery that kept me guessing until the end.
3. People We Meet on Vacation by Emily Henry: A heartwarming and witty romance that explored the joys and challenges of lifelong friendships.
4. Funny Story by Emily Henry: A laugh-out-loud novel that combined humor with heartfelt moments.
5. The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stanier: A practical guide on how to coach effectively by asking the right questions.
6. The Art of Laziness by Alex Fumero: A lighthearted yet insightful look at how embracing laziness can lead to more productive and fulfilling living.
7. Win Your Inner Battles by Darius Foroux: A motivational read about overcoming personal struggles and achieving goals.
8. Happy Place by Emily Henry: A delightful contemporary romance that explores the intricacies of love and friendship.

October to December: Reflective Reads

As the year wound down, I turned to a mix of enchanting and thought-provoking books that left a lasting impression or were part of the N&S&M Bookclub:

1. The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue by V.E. Schwab: An evocative tale of a woman who makes a Faustian bargain to live forever, but is cursed to be forgotten by everyone she meets.
2. Waypoints by Sam Heughan: An inspiring memoir that chronicles the journey of the actor known for his role in Outlander, blending personal reflections and captivating storytelling.
3. Mine for a Moment by Catharina Maura: A touching story exploring relationships and the complexities of human connections.
4. The Mystery Guest by Grégoire Bouillier: A unique and introspective narrative that delves into the unexpected surprises life can offer.
5. Two Twisted Crowns by Rachel Gillig: A gripping fantasy novel that takes readers on a dark and thrilling adventure.
6. One Dark Window by Rachel Gillig: Another mesmerizing fantasy from Gillig, packed with mystery and magic.
7. The Last Letter by Rebecca Yarros: An emotional and heartfelt novel that delves into themes of love, loss, and healing.
8. The Mistletoe Mystery by Nina Prose: A delightful holiday-themed mystery that brings the festive spirit alive.
9. How My Neighbor Stole Christmas by Megan Quinn: A charming holiday romance filled with festive cheer and heartwarming moments.

Highlights and Reflections

Completing this challenge was more than just about the numbers. It was about the stories that stayed with me, the characters who felt like friends, and the lessons that resonated long after I turned the last page.

Each book was a stepping stone in a journey of self-discovery, knowledge, and joy. From the thrill of adventure to the depths of human experience, these 24 books in 2024 have left an indelible mark on my life.

Here’s to many more literary adventures in the years to come! 📚

Ranking (best to worse)

1. Book Lovers by Emily Henry
2. Funny Story by Emily Henry
3. Happy Place by Emily Henry
4. People We Meet on Vacation by Emily Henry
5. The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue by V.E. Schwab
6. Two Twisted Crowns by Rachel Gillig
7. One Dark Window by Rachel Gillig
8. The Mystery Guest by Nina Prose
9. The Things We Leave Unfinished by Rebecca Yarros
10. The Last Letter by Rebecca Yarros
11. The Mistletoe Mystery by Nina Prose
12. Waypoints by Sam Heughan
13. We Are All the Same in the Dark by Julia Heaberlin
14. The Mystery Guest by Grégoire Bouillier
15. The 5 AM Club by Robin Sharma
16. Good Vibes, Good Life by Vex King
17. The Communication Book by Mikael Krogerus and Roman Tschäppeler
18. Make Your Bed by Admiral William H. McRaven
19. The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
20. Surrounded by Idiots by Thomas Erikson
21. Talk Like TED by Carmine Gallo
22. The Art of Thinking Clearly by Rolf Dobelli
23. The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy
24. The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga
25. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant by Eric Jorgenson
26. How to Finish Everything You Start by Jan Yager
27. The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel
28. Atomic Habits by James Clear
29. Win Your Inner Battles by Darius Foroux
30. The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stanier
31. Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace
32. The Art of Laziness by Alex Fumero
33. How My Neighbor Stole Christmas by Megan Quinn
34. Mine for a Moment by Catharina Maura

 

 

What My Puppy, Little Ann, Taught Me About Corporate America

It turns out that having a puppy can feel a lot like navigating Corporate America—especially when that puppy is Little Ann. Named after the spirited companion in Wilson Rawls' Where the Red Fern Grows, my Little Ann shares that same unstoppable energy, fierce loyalty, and boundless curiosity that made her literary namesake so memorable. Since joining my life, she’s been an unintentional but incredibly effective mentor, offering some humorous (if exasperating) parallels to lessons I’ve encountered in the professional world.

Little Ann with her ball

Little Ann's destruction

So far, she’s chewed through two tax checks, the handle of my Brahmin laptop bag, three lottery tickets (who knows if I was a winner), a portable space heater, and developed a unique morning ritual: launching herself onto my head at 4:15 a.m. for a “wake-up” face bath. Amid all the chaos, here’s what Little Ann has taught me about life in Corporate America—along with a few insights inspired by her namesake.

1.   Adaptability is Key
Each day, Little Ann tests my patience in a new way. Just when I think I’ve finally puppy-proofed the house, she finds a fresh challenge. This constant unpredictability mirrors life in Corporate America, where projects shift, priorities change, and unexpected obstacles appear. Much like her namesake in Where the Red Fern Grows, Little Ann reminds me that adaptability isn’t optional; it’s essential. Whether it’s puppy-proofing the house or planning for last-minute business changes, I’ve learned to keep a Plan B (and sometimes a C) handy.

2.   Loyalty and Dedication Go a Long Way
In Where the Red Fern Grows, Little Ann is known for her loyalty and her ability to stay by her companion’s side through thick and thin. My own Little Ann shows that same unwavering dedication, though it sometimes looks like following me around the house relentlessly or making sure I’m awake (very awake) at 4:15 a.m. Loyalty and dedication are just as valuable in the workplace. Colleagues who demonstrate these qualities are often the bedrock of successful teams. When things get tough, it’s those who, like Little Ann, stay the course and remain dedicated to the company and each other who make the biggest difference.

3.   Resourcefulness Overcomes Setbacks
I never realized how fragile lottery tickets could be until Little Ann shredded three of them in record time. I also didn't realize my reaction and attempt to tape them back together.  LOL.  In the workplace, this is like when a polished report or presentation is derailed by unexpected issues. Her antics taught me that setbacks are inevitable, and sometimes the only option is to regroup and get creative with what’s left. While I’ll never know if those tickets were winners, I’m reminded that there’s always something within our control to move forward.

4.   Boundaries and Discipline Are Non-Negotiable
Puppies, like work projects, need boundaries. Little Ann is learning what’s off-limits, and I’ve learned that in corporate life, clear boundaries and consistent discipline are crucial. Without them, teams can lose focus, and even well-meaning efforts can go astray. Watching Little Ann test her limits has shown me that setting clear expectations—and enforcing them—is key to keeping any team (or puppy) on the right track.

5.   Growth Happens Through Consistency and Positive Reinforcement
Training Little Ann is a gradual process—growth takes time, patience, and plenty of positive reinforcement. This lesson is just as true in Corporate America, where progress is built on consistent effort and encouragement. Whether leading a team or implementing a new strategy, the small steps count. Like her fictional counterpart, Little Ann reminds me that even the best ideas need nurturing to thrive.

6.   Persistence Pays Off
If Little Ann wants something, she’ll stop at nothing to get it. There’s an undeniable value in her persistence - quality that’s equally necessary for success in Corporate America. Little Ann is tenacious with a capital T.   Big goals like landing a promotion or leading a major project demand resilience. When I watch Little Ann tackle a challenge with boundless enthusiasm, I’m reminded that sometimes, the only way forward is through sheer determination. Just like in Where the Red Fern Grows, persistence and grit can make even the toughest goals attainable.

7.   Laugh Through the Chaos
Living with a puppy is unpredictable, and learning to laugh through the chaos has been essential. In Corporate America, unexpected shifts and last-minute changes are the norm, and finding humor in the little setbacks can be the best way to stay grounded. Little Ann’s misadventures have reminded me that laughter, even amid the mess, helps me keep perspective and focus on what truly matters.

8.   The Importance of a Morning Routine
Now, thanks to Little Ann’s "alarm clock," my day starts at exactly 4:15 a.m. with a boisterous face bath. As she just hit six months, we are no longer in "puppy breath" phase.  No amount of training has altered this, and I’ve come to accept her unique version of morning motivation. In Corporate America, starting each day with energy—whether self-initiated or “assisted”—is essential. Whether it’s a workout, a quiet coffee, or a puppy plopping on my head, a morning routine that energizes you can set the tone for a successful day.

Owning Little Ann has been an adventure, a series of patience-testing, laughter-inducing lessons that parallel the skills I use every day in Corporate America. Through chewed-up tax checks, shredded tickets, and destroyed space heaters, she’s taught me resilience, humor, and a new perspective on work, life, and everything in between. Like the loyal and determined Little Ann of Where the Red Fern Grows, my own Little Ann has shown me that with enough grit and a sense of humor, we can face anything—even the corporate jungle.

Happy Thursday all,

-srt

Rawls, Wilson. Where the Red Fern Grows. Doubleday, 1961.

Always Be Yourself… Unless You Can Be a Unicorn

You know those gifts that make you laugh out loud but also stop and think for a second? Well, I recently got one of those—a sign that reads, “Always be yourself, unless you can be a unicorn. Then, always be a unicorn.”

At first, it just made me giggle. It's one of those playful, quirky sayings you might find on a mug or a t-shirt. But then I really started thinking about it, and honestly, it felt like the universe gave me a little nudge. It reminded me of something important about being true to yourself, embracing your quirks, and, well, allowing yourself to be a little magical once in a while.

The Power of Being Yourself

We’ve all heard the advice, “Just be yourself.” It’s one of those phrases we nod at but don’t always stop to unpack. In a world that constantly encourages us to conform or keep up with others, being yourself can feel a little rebellious, right? But it’s actually one of the best things we can do.

Embracing who we really are—our weirdness, our passions, our flaws—can make us feel more confident and fulfilled. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being authentic. Once you let go of trying to live up to someone else’s expectations, you create space to show up as your truest self. And let me tell you, the world needs more of that.

And Then There’s the Unicorn...

Now, let’s talk about the unicorn part of the equation. Unicorns are magical, right? They stand out, they’re rare, and they have that enchanting, mysterious vibe. So, when the quote says, “Unless you can be a unicorn,” it’s not suggesting that you should be something you’re not. Instead, it’s a playful reminder to tap into that magical side of yourself. It's like telling you to embrace the part of you that’s bold, creative, and completely unique.

Why be ordinary when you can be extraordinary? The world is full of “horses,” but unicorns are special. It’s an invitation to dream big, color outside the lines, and embrace what makes you, well, YOU. Sometimes, we all need to hear that it’s okay to step up and shine a little brighter.

Embrace Your Inner Unicorn

Being a unicorn isn’t about being perfect or pretending to be someone else. It’s about embracing what’s special about you and letting it shine. Whether you’re rocking a creative project, pursuing a career goal, or just living your life, there’s something magical about bringing your whole self into it. The world needs more of that—more people who are unapologetically themselves and who bring their own spark to everything they do.

So, here’s the thing: it’s not just about being “yourself”—it’s about being the best version of yourself, the one that stands out, the one who dares to be different. It’s about letting your unique qualities shine and giving yourself permission to be a little magical sometimes.

A Reminder to Let Your Magic Shine

Every time I look at that sign, I can’t help but smile. It’s a reminder that while being authentic is key, we shouldn’t forget that we each have something special to offer. And sometimes, that means letting our inner unicorn out to play.

Next time you feel like blending in or hiding your unique spark, just remember: you’re not meant to be ordinary. The world needs your magic. So, always be yourself... unless you can be a unicorn. And then, for the love of glitter and rainbows, always, ALWAYS be a unicorn. 

Happy Thursday Magically People,

-srt ✨🦄

Put Your Worries in a Bubble and Let Them Go: A Lesson from My Sister

One of the things my sister, nicknamed Wheezer, used to say that always stuck with me was, “Put your worries in a bubble and let them go.” It was one of those simple phrases that seemed almost too easy, yet its wisdom has lingered with me long after she passed in 2022.

At first, the idea of “putting your worries in a bubble” felt almost childlike—how could something so simple have any real power over life's complex challenges? But over time, I began to understand just how profound that small act of visualization could be, and how much peace it could bring when we let go of the weight of worry.

The Power of Letting Go

In life, we often carry the burden of worries on our shoulders—about work, relationships, health, the future, and countless other things. It’s easy to become consumed by these thoughts, allowing them to take over our mental space and emotional energy.

My sister’s advice, though simple, serves as a reminder to let go of what we can’t control. The act of putting our worries in a bubble is not about ignoring the problems or pretending they don’t exist. It’s about acknowledging them, giving them a place to rest temporarily, and then allowing ourselves the space to breathe. The bubble becomes a visual representation of releasing the anxiety, watching it float away, and trusting that, for the moment, it’s not something we need to carry with us.

Why Bubbles?

Why a bubble? The beauty of a bubble is in its lightness and impermanence. A bubble is delicate, and it’s fleeting. It doesn’t last forever, but in its brief life, it serves its purpose. Similarly, our worries are often momentary and transient, even if they feel overwhelming at the time. The visual of putting them in a bubble allows us to realize that our worries are not permanent fixtures of our lives; they can float away, just like the bubble, leaving us lighter and more at peace.

This simple image helps shift our mindset. Instead of obsessing over a problem or ruminating on “what ifs,” we can take a step back and give ourselves permission to release the hold our worries have on us. It's about choosing to pause and be present in the moment, knowing that whatever we’re stressing about doesn't have to consume us.

A Lesson in Mindfulness

My sister's advice also has a lot to do with mindfulness—the practice of being fully present in the moment and not allowing our thoughts to spiral. Worries often come from living in the future, imagining scenarios that haven’t happened yet. But by “putting them in a bubble and letting them go,” we shift our focus back to the now. The bubble reminds us that the present moment is all we really have.

Letting go doesn’t mean we’re giving up. It doesn’t mean that we’re being irresponsible or failing to plan for the future. Instead, it’s an act of self-care, giving ourselves the emotional space to let go of what’s not serving us in the moment.

How to Put Your Worries in a Bubble

Here’s how I’ve started to use my sister’s advice in my own life:

1. Acknowledge the Worry: Instead of pushing your worry away or pretending it’s not there, acknowledge it. Sit with it for a moment.  Feel it.  Recognize it for what it is: a thought, an emotion, a concern.
2. Visualize the Bubble: Close your eyes and imagine a bubble in front of you. Place the worry inside the bubble. See the bubble float gently in the air, knowing it will go where it needs to, even if it's just for the moment.
3. Let It Go: Watch the bubble drift away. Remind yourself that you don’t have to hold onto this worry forever. You’ve given it space, and now, you’re choosing to let go of the weight.
4. Focus on the Present: Bring your attention back to the here and now. What can you do right in this moment? What can you control, and what can you release?
5. Repeat: This practice isn’t a one-time fix. Worries will come back, but each time you put them in a bubble and let them go, it gets easier. You start to realize that many of the things you worry about are out of your control, and that’s okay.

A Legacy of Peace

Since my sister passed, I’ve found myself reflecting often on the lessons she taught me, whether through words or her actions. “Put your worries in a bubble and let them go” is more than just a phrase—it’s a gift of peace she left behind. It’s a reminder to not let anxiety and fear take over our lives, to trust in the process, and to make space for calm in the chaos.

So, the next time you find yourself overwhelmed by worry, I encourage you to try this simple yet powerful practice. Put your worries in a bubble and let them go. You might be surprised at how much lighter you feel and how much more you can focus on what really matters in the moment.

Thank you, Wheezer, for the wisdom. I carry it with me every day.

Happy Thursday all,

-srt

 

Embrace the Mess: A Holiday Message for the “Superwoman” in each of us

 

Happy Thursday all,

The holidays are here—a time filled with joy, connection, and, let's be honest, a bit of chaos. Between the whirlwind of decorating, cooking, gift-giving, and gathering, the season can feel like an endless to-do list. But what if this year, we chose to embrace the mess instead of striving for perfection?

As professional women, the pressure to create picture-perfect holidays can weigh heavily. Social media feeds us curated moments of sparkling trees and tablescapes, often leaving us feeling like we need to measure up. Yet, the truth is, the magic of the holidays doesn’t lie in perfection. It’s found in the messy, unpredictable, and wonderfully human moments.

Why Mess is Beautiful

1. It Shows You Care
The stack of unwrapped presents and flour-dusted countertops tell a story: you’ve been working hard to make someone smile. Every bit of "mess" is a sign of love, dedication, and effort. Let it remind you of your heart's beautiful intention rather than your perceived imperfection.

2. Connection Over Presentation
People won’t remember if your cookies were slightly burnt or your tree wasn’t symmetrical. What they’ll cherish is how you made them feel. Focus on laughter, hugs, and conversations, not the stress of a spotless home.

3. Growth Comes from Mess
When things don’t go as planned—like when the turkey overcooks or someone forgets the eggnog—it becomes a story to laugh about next year. Life’s greatest lessons and memories often emerge from its most imperfect moments.

Tips for Embracing the Mess

1. Redefine Success
Success during the holidays isn’t about achieving perfection; it’s about cultivating joy. Shift your focus to what matters most—relationships, traditions, and self-care.

2. Ask for Help
Superwoman doesn’t have to do it all. Whether it’s setting the table or wrapping presents, lean on family and friends. Delegating not only eases your load but also involves others in the joy of the season.

3. Be Present, Not Perfect
Pause to savor the moments—a child’s laughter, the warmth of a shared meal, or the beauty of holiday lights. The little things often matter most.

A Holiday Affirmation (Repeat after Me)

This holiday season, remind yourself:

1. I am enough, just as I am.

2. The beauty of the season isn’t in what I achieve but in how I connect.  

3. Every imperfect moment adds depth and richness to my story.

To All Women Dreaming Big This Season

Whether you’re hosting your first holiday dinner, juggling family obligations, or simply trying to keep up with it all, remember this: you don’t have to do it perfectly to make it meaningful. Your messy, beautiful holiday will inspire others to embrace theirs.

So light the candles, let the glitter spill, and laugh when the dog runs off with the wrapping paper. This is your season—mess and all.

Enjoy the season! 

-srt

Lessons from the Farm

If you grew up on a farm, you know there’s a different rulebook for life—and it’s usually dirt-stained, dog-eared, and smells faintly of hay. Farm life doesn’t mess around; it’s a teacher of resilience, hard work, and a healthy appreciation for the things you can’t control. As it turns out, those skills don’t just help you handle early mornings and unpredictable weather. They’re a guide for how to grow in your career, whether you’re wrangling chickens or quarterly goals.

Hard Work is Just Part of the Deal

On the farm, you learn early that nothing gets done by itself. Animals need feeding, crops need weeding, and all of it often starts before dawn. You work until the job’s done—not because there’s a reward waiting, but because that’s how things get done. This focus on the task rather than the clock carries straight into the workplace. You learn that real progress isn’t about filling time but about tackling challenges head-on, even when the going gets tough. Plus, after cleaning out chicken coops, spreadsheets don’t seem so bad.

Weather Happens, and So Do Setbacks

Farming has a way of reminding you of what’s beyond your control. One minute, you’re looking at a bumper crop; the next, an unexpected frost or dry spell knocks everything off course. I once had to replant vegetables twice because California had two weird frosts in a row. This breeds resilience and teaches you to adapt rather than panic. It’s a lesson that translates directly to work, where projects face surprise setbacks or sudden shifts in priorities. Instead of spinning your wheels on what went wrong, you learn to pivot. It’s like the old farm saying: “Don’t cry over spilled milk—grab a mop and keep going.”

Eyes Open, Ears Up: Details Matter

Out in the fields, it’s the little things that tell the bigger story. Whether it’s a patch of leaves looking “off” or a change in the animals’ behavior, you learn quickly that details matter. Noticing these things early can save you from much bigger problems later. In the office, the same idea applies: the devil’s in the details. Catching an issue before it snowballs or recognizing a small improvement that could make a big difference can set you apart. Think of it as fieldwork in the office: you’re watching, listening, and keeping your fingers on the pulse.

It’s Not About the Hours; It’s About the Harvest

On a farm, it’s about what gets done, not how long it takes. If a storm’s coming, you don’t clock out just because it’s quitting time. You keep going because that’s the only way the job’s going to get done. This mindset is a real game-changer in the corporate world, too. Focusing on results rather than hours makes you more efficient and goal-driven. After all, no one wins points for “Most Hours Clocked in Excel.” The people who grow—personally and professionally—are the ones who focus on the harvest, not the hustle.

Growing Your Career Like Growing a Crop

Building a career, like raising a crop, doesn’t happen overnight. It’s about small, steady steps forward, paying attention, and making adjustments when things don’t go as planned. Sometimes you’ll face bad weather or a dry spell, but you learn to keep at it because you’ve seen what persistence can do. Farming teaches you that great things don’t happen by accident; they come from working hard, showing up, and putting in the time and care to help things grow.

Now, I wasn’t raised on a farm, but over the last 12 years, working on the farm has taught me so many lessons that apply to Corporate America. Hard work, adaptability, a focus on details, and a results-oriented mindset can take you far. It’s a roadmap not just for crops but for careers. And the beauty is, when you apply these farm-bred principles, you’re prepared for whatever the season (or workweek) throws at you. After all, growth—whether in the field or in your career—isn’t about perfection; it’s about persistence.

Happy Thursday Lovelies,

-srt

Navigating Change Without Fear: A Professional’s Guide to Confidence and Growth

Change is one of the most constant yet challenging forces in the professional world. Whether it’s a company restructuring, adopting new technologies, or navigating shifts in market demands, change has a way of spotlighting our insecurities. For many career professionals, this can feel reputation-threatening rather than reputation-lifting.

But why does change trigger such a response?

When faced with the unknown, insecure professionals often fall into a defensive posture. Instead of adapting, they may seek to solidify their status by showcasing their intelligence, striving to appear infallible. As Adam Grant, a psychologist and thought leader, so aptly puts it:

"Insecure people strive to prove their intelligence. They are quick to assure us that they have the answer - they are determined to be right. Secure people aim to improve their intelligence. They're quick to speak up when they have questions - they're focused on getting it right."

This mindset, while understandable, often does more harm than good. When we prioritize appearing right over getting it right, we undermine collaboration, stifle innovation, and, ironically, risk damaging our reputations.

The Reputation Threat of Insecurity During Change

Insecurity during change manifests in ways that can unintentionally harm a professional's reputation:

1. Resistance to New Ideas: Clinging to old methods or dismissing new approaches can signal an unwillingness to grow.
2. Fear-Based Decision-Making: Avoiding risks or micromanaging teams out of fear can erode trust and morale.
3. Defensiveness in Feedback: An inability to accept constructive criticism can make others hesitant to collaborate.

While these behaviors might protect a fragile sense of competence in the short term, they also create a perception of rigidity or fearfulness, which is counterproductive in dynamic environments.

Transforming Insecurity Into Growth

To shift from reputation-threatening to reputation-lifting during change, professionals must embrace a mindset of security and curiosity. Here’s how:

1. Ask More Questions: Secure professionals don’t pretend to know everything; they seek understanding. Admitting what you don’t know isn’t a weakness—it’s a mark of maturity and confidence.
2. Prioritize Learning Over Being Right: When you focus on improving your skills and knowledge, you signal adaptability and a growth mindset to colleagues and leaders.
3. Embrace Feedback: Feedback is a tool, not a threat. Seek it out, reflect on it, and use it to refine your approach.
4. Collaborate Openly: Be the person who uplifts others during change. Supporting colleagues fosters trust and a shared sense of purpose.
5. Practice Self-Compassion: Change is hard for everyone. Giving yourself grace to learn and grow reduces the fear of failure.

A New Definition of Success

Success in a world of change isn’t about proving you have the answers—it’s about showing you’re willing to find them. It’s about being secure enough to admit, “I don’t know, but I’ll figure it out.” This approach not only builds trust but also transforms moments of uncertainty into opportunities for growth and innovation.

As I prepare to step into retirement—a major life change—I find myself leaning into this guidance. Letting go of a role I’ve held for decades and stepping into the unknown is both exciting and nerve-wracking. I remind myself daily to embrace curiosity over fear and to view this transition as an opportunity to learn, explore, and grow in new ways. If I’m being honest, I’m preaching to myself too: focusing on getting it right rather than proving I’m ready for this next chapter. It’s humbling but empowering, and I’m learning to trust the process.

As professionals, our reputations are built on how we respond to challenges, not how we avoid them. Change is a chance to demonstrate resilience, curiosity, and a commitment to improvement. Let’s use it to lift ourselves—and our teams—higher.

How do you handle insecurities during times of change? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Share your strategies in the comments.

Happy Thursday all,

-srt

All Aboard the Decision-Making Express!

Why Waiting for the Perfect Answer Won’t Get Us Anywhere

Making decisions is a lot like standing on a platform watching trains come and go. Some people hop on right away, trusting the journey, while others linger, waiting until every single passenger has the “perfect” ticket, the “right” seat, and maybe even a snack. We’ve all been there—on the sidelines, debating every little detail. But as technologists, we need to be willing to jump on board, even if every “perfect” answer hasn’t arrived yet. Let’s talk about why this matters, and what it means for us as a team to embrace constructive confrontation, “disagree and commit,” and learn to board without delay.

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Constructive Confrontation: The Real Conversation, Not a Shouting Match
Constructive confrontation is like that friend who insists on checking everyone’s travel itinerary. It’s not about fighting over who has the window seat; it’s about saying, “I see your point, but what if we’re off track?” Productive disagreements bring every voice to the platform (literally and figuratively) so that we can choose the best train, together.
I know, “confrontation” can sound like we’re preparing for a clash, but here, it’s just honest communication. It’s the courage to say, “I’m not sure about this,” or, “How about another angle?” Constructive confrontation is simply offering up your perspective for the good of the team. Picture it like this: we’re debating the 10:10 or 10:30 departure for our project’s next phase. Constructive confrontation gives us a holistic view of options and stops us from riding the rails based on assumptions.

Stacy Thought: Use your voice! Don’t just be a yes-person. Bring your unique perspective forward—that’s your value.

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Disagree and Commit: We Don’t All Need Window Seats
Once the conversation’s over and we make a call, it’s time to board—no matter what train we chose. Maybe you wanted the 10:30, but the team went with the 10:10. “Disagree and commit” means that even if it’s not your first pick, you’re going to give it your best shot.
And if we waited until everyone was on board with the “perfect” plan, we’d never leave the station! Standing still only means falling behind, especially in our field, where our competitors certainly aren’t waiting. Our success lies in our agility to adapt and keep moving towards our goals—even if it means taking an unexpected turn here or there.

Stacy Thought: Sometimes, you just need to get on the train. 😊

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The Waiting Game: Perfection vs. Progress
If we wait for every person to feel 100% ready, or for conditions to be “just right,” we’ll never move forward. Decisions are, by nature, snapshots in time; business needs, markets, and technology all evolve faster than we could ever predict. We make decisions based on the best information we have at the moment, and the rest unfolds as we go.

One of my most challenging (and inspiring) bosses used to say, “Perfection is the enemy of good enough.” This same boss also said, “Even a blind squirrel finds a nut every now and then.” That nugget still resonates! Perfection shouldn’t be the goal—getting to an optimal state is a journey of many steps. Remember, “good enough” is what gets us moving.

Stacy Thought: Don’t let perfection paralyze you. Our job is to aim for progress, not perfection.

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Would We Ever Leave?
If we all waited for the perfect plan, the train would never leave the station. The combination of constructive confrontation, “disagree and commit,” and embracing imperfection is what empowers us to board and keep moving. Making the decision to decide is often the hardest part. And while you may not love every choice, having the courage to commit will ensure we’re always moving forward.

Stacy Thought: So here’s my advice: Gather up, ask tough questions, bring your perspectives to the table, and then commit. It may not be the smoothest journey, but it’s one that’ll take us to the right destination—scenic route and all.

Happy Thursday, everyone, and let’s keep this train rolling!
-srt

What Working the California Election Voting Center Taught Me

Working at a California Election Voting Center for four days was an eye-opening experience that taught me lessons about community engagement, the power of civic duty, and the behind-the-scenes efforts that go into ensuring a fair and seamless voting process. Here’s what I learned about both democracy and the diverse and determined people who help make it work.

1. Community Engagement Runs Deep

Throughout my four days at the center, I met people from all walks of life—different ages, backgrounds, and political beliefs. It was inspiring to see how strongly people felt about their right to vote. This kind of engagement doesn’t happen by chance; it’s a product of deep-rooted connections and a shared belief in making one’s voice heard. Working here reminded me of the importance of community and how an election brings people together to make collective choices for the future.

2. Patience and Empathy Go a Long Way

Helping voters navigate the system taught me the importance of patience. Some people were unfamiliar with the voting process or had questions about procedures. Whether it was explaining the voting machine, clarifying a rule, or simply reassuring someone about their vote’s impact, I learned that patience and empathy are key. Elections can feel overwhelming and being calm and approachable can make all the difference in someone’s experience.

3. The Importance of Transparency

There’s a lot that goes into ensuring the integrity of every vote, from the set-up of the machines to verifying voter registration. Being on the inside, I saw just how many steps are taken to prevent any issues. Every process is carefully monitored, and every rule strictly followed. This transparency builds trust in the voting process. It’s encouraging to know that so many checks are in place to make sure every vote counts.

4. Adaptability is Key

Each day brought something new—unexpected technology issues, busy times when the line would build up, or moments when we had to explain changing policies. As a team, we had to stay adaptable. I learned that flexibility and a readiness to tackle challenges are essential in ensuring everything runs smoothly, especially during peak periods. Election staff are highly trained, and they move quickly to adapt to whatever situations arise.

5. Gratitude for Volunteers and Workers

Before this experience, I hadn’t fully appreciated the dedication of the poll workers and volunteers. Many people devote long hours to ensure the voting process runs smoothly, often sacrificing their time to serve their community. It’s rewarding work, but it’s not without its challenges. Observing their commitment firsthand gave me a new sense of gratitude and respect for those who take on this role.

6. Every Vote Counts—Literally

The volume of voters who came through each day was a powerful reminder that each vote truly matters. Watching people exercise this right—some for the first time, others as part of a long-standing tradition—made me realize how important it is to be counted. Whether the voter was young or elderly, from a small town or a big city, each one had a part to play. Working in this role reinforced my belief in the power of a single vote and the collective impact of everyone’s participation.

Final Thoughts

Working the California Election Voting Center showed me the humanity behind the electoral process and the importance of a dedicated team to ensure it all comes together. The experience was a reminder of why voting matters and how, through both large and small contributions, each of us can strengthen our communities. I’d encourage everyone to take advantage of the two days of community service our company offers; giving back not only enriches us personally but also reinforces the fabric of our communities and the democracy we all rely on.

 Happy Thursday all,

-srt

Five Truths for Growing Your Career: Lessons I Learned Early On (Plus a Bonus)

Throughout my years in the tech industry, I've navigated both successes and challenges, and along the way, I’ve learned a few key truths that have truly made a difference in my career growth. Recently, I was asked about the advice I give to individuals looking to move up and around at the bank, and it got me thinking—these aren’t your typical buzzwords or generic advice you’d find in a motivational speech. These are lessons earned through real-life experience, reflection, and yes, some hard knocks.

So, I thought I’d document five key truths I wish I had fully embraced earlier in my career. I hope they will help you as much as they’ve helped me.

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1. Your Only Competition Is You

It’s easy to get caught up comparing yourself to others, especially in our fast-paced, high-performance industry. But the truth is, the only person you should be competing with is who you were yesterday. My son Brandon taught me this lesson early on when he swam competitively. I would ask him whose time he was going to beat at the next meet, and he would simply reply, "My own." I admired that mindset. Sure enough, he held the best records on his team for years—until his younger brother broke two of them during his senior year. The point is, focus on becoming a better version of yourself every day. Learn more, grow in your skills, and push beyond your comfort zone. Your career isn’t a race against others; it’s a personal journey toward your full potential.

Ask yourself: What can I improve today that will make me better than I was yesterday?

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2. Think Big, Act Small

Dreaming big is vital—it provides direction and motivation. And trust me, I am a BIG dreamer. But when it comes to execution, starting small is the key to success. Big goals can be overwhelming if you try to tackle them all at once. Break them down into manageable steps, and celebrate each small victory along the way. Consistent, incremental progress is how you ultimately achieve something significant.

Ask yourself: What’s one small step I can take today to move closer to my big goals?

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3. Break Free from the Herd

Innovation doesn’t happen by following the crowd. To truly stand out in your career, you must be willing to break free from conventional thinking and take risks. Don’t be afraid to challenge the status quo or bring up new ideas, even if they seem unconventional. The most successful people in any field didn’t get there by playing it safe—they dared to be different.

Ask yourself: What’s one bold move I can make today that will set me apart?

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4. Stop Worrying About What Others Think

This is easier said than done, but it’s one of the most liberating truths. I’ve been there—overthinking what others might think and allowing fear to dictate my decisions. It was paralyzing. But at some point, I realized that I can’t control how others perceive me. I decided to focus on what I can control—being authentic, working with integrity, staying curious, and surrounding myself with brilliant people. The reality is, you can’t control other people’s thoughts, so don’t let that hold you back. Trust your instincts and make decisions that align with your values.

Ask yourself: Am I making this decision for myself, or to please others?

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5. Discipline Beats Motivation

Motivation is fleeting. Some days you’ll wake up ready to conquer the world, and other days you’ll struggle to find the energy to get out of bed. That’s where discipline comes in. Discipline keeps you moving forward when motivation fades. Establish routines, hold yourself accountable, and keep showing up—even on the tough days. Over time, discipline builds momentum, and momentum leads to success. If you haven’t already, I recommend reading The 5 AM Club. While some parts are a little whimsical, it drives home the importance of discipline.

Ask yourself: How can I build discipline into my daily routine to ensure progress even on the hard days?

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Bonus Truth: Embrace Discomfort to Grow

Growth rarely happens inside your comfort zone. If you’re not feeling challenged, you’re not pushing yourself hard enough. Embracing discomfort is key to both personal and professional development. It’s when you tackle tasks that stretch your abilities, face difficult conversations, or take on unfamiliar challenges that real growth happens. Discomfort is temporary, but the growth is lasting.

Ask yourself: What discomfort am I avoiding, and how can I lean into it to grow?

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By embracing these truths early on, I found clarity and direction in my career. Growth is a continuous process, but these principles are timeless. Remember, your path to success is uniquely yours. Applying these lessons consistently can set you up for long-term success.

I encourage you to take these insights to heart and reflect on how they might apply to your own journey. 

Let’s keep pushing boundaries—individually and as a team.

Stay disciplined, dream big, embrace discomfort, and break free!

Happy Thursday all,

-srt

Say No More to These 10 Common Phrases

When presenting, showing confidence is essential for building trust and engaging your audience. One way to enhance your credibility is by avoiding phrases that might unintentionally weaken your message.

Reflecting on my own experiences, I’ve identified 10 common phrases I used to rely on in presentations. I’ve worked to eliminate these from my conversations, especially when presenting. Below are the phrases, why it’s helpful to avoid them, and what you can say instead to deliver your message with greater confidence and clarity:

1. Avoid: "I think..."

   • Why: It can make your message seem uncertain. Research shows that speakers who express certainty are viewed as more authoritative and credible.
   • Say Instead: "I believe..." or "I’m confident that..."

2. Avoid: "I’m sorry, but..."

   • Why: Over-apologizing can undermine your confidence. Studies show that unnecessary apologies can make a speaker seem less competent.
   • Say Instead: "I’d like to address..." or "Let’s consider..."

3. Avoid: "I’ll try to..."

   • Why: It weakens your commitment. Assertive language builds trust and conveys determination, according to goal-setting research.
   • Say Instead: "I will..." or "I’m going to..."

4. Avoid: "Does that make sense?"

   • Why: Asking this may signal self-doubt. Confident speakers are less likely to seek reassurance, and this can affect how others perceive your expertise.
   • Say Instead: "What are your thoughts on this?" or "Let me know if you have any questions."

5. Avoid: "I’m not an expert, but..."

   • Why: It diminishes your authority. Studies show that downplaying your knowledge can cause doubt in your audience.
   • Say Instead: "Based on my experience..." or "In my research, I’ve found..."

6. Avoid: "I’ll keep it short."

   • Why: This can suggest that your content isn’t important. Positive framing increases engagement and receptivity.
   • Say Instead: "Let’s dive into the key points."

7. Avoid: "I’m just going to..."

   • Why: The word "just" can downplay the importance of what you’re about to say. Linguistic research shows that minimizing language weakens your statements.
   • Say Instead: "I’ll now..." or "Let’s move to..."

8. Avoid: "This might be a stupid question, but..."

   • Why: It undermines your intelligence. Self-deprecating remarks can lower others’ perceptions of your competence.
   • Say Instead: "Here’s an important consideration..." or "Let’s explore this idea..."

9. Avoid: "Hopefully..."

   • Why: It can signal a lack of control. Assertive language improves perceptions of confidence and competence.
   • Say Instead: "I expect..." or "I anticipate..."

10. Avoid: "Bear with me..."

    • Why: It can make you seem unprepared. Confident speakers guide their audience without asking for leniency.
    • Say Instead: "Let’s move through this together..." or "We’ll take this step by step..."

By making small adjustments to your language, you can project more confidence and authority, ultimately making your presentations stronger and more impactful.

Happy Thursday all,

-srt

Resources
The Art of Public Speaking by Stephen Lucas
Talk Like TED by Carmine Gallo